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Friday, November 29, 2013
Thursday, September 26, 2013
The 33 Strategies of war
The 33 Strategies of war is a book by Robert Greene. Will list few of the strategies mentioned in the book. Source link
In 1519, Hernán Cortés led an expedition to conquer the Aztecs. When he arrived in Mexico, his men grew fearful of the fierce warriors. Cortés sank his ships so his soldiers could not run away. Left with no option, they fought and won. People fight like wildcats when they have no other choice.
In German, “blitzkrieg” means “lightning war,” an onslaught of ultra fast movement and total obliteration. People often are indecisive and fear moving quickly. If you strike boldly, hard and fast, your enemies won’t know what hit them
Create a sense of urgency and desperation
The Death-Ground Strategy
You are your own worst enemy. You waste previous time dreaming of the future instead of engaging in the present. Cut your ties to the past — enter unknown territory. Place yourself on "death ground", where your back is against the wall and you have to fight like hell to get out alive.In 1519, Hernán Cortés led an expedition to conquer the Aztecs. When he arrived in Mexico, his men grew fearful of the fierce warriors. Cortés sank his ships so his soldiers could not run away. Left with no option, they fought and won. People fight like wildcats when they have no other choice.
Overwhelm resistance with speed and suddenness
The Blitzkrieg Strategy
In a world in which many people are indecisive and overly cautious, the use of speed will bring you untold power. Striking first, before your opponents have time to think or prepare, will make them emotional, unbalanced, and prone to error.In German, “blitzkrieg” means “lightning war,” an onslaught of ultra fast movement and total obliteration. People often are indecisive and fear moving quickly. If you strike boldly, hard and fast, your enemies won’t know what hit them
Tuesday, September 17, 2013
Selective quotes of George Bernard Shaw
A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.
Beware of false knowledge; it is more dangerous than ignorance.
Just do what must be done. This may not be happiness, but it is greatness.
We don't stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.
I learned long ago, never to wrestle with a pig. You get dirty, and besides, the pig likes it.
First love is only a little foolishness and a lot of curiosity.
The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.
People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it.
Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.
We are made wise not by the recollection of our past, but by the responsibility for our future.
If you cannot get rid of the family skeleton, you may as well make it dance.
Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.
The liar's punishment is not in the least that he is not believed, but that he cannot believe anyone else.
Alcohol is the anesthesia by which we endure the operation of life.
A fool's brain digests philosophy into folly, science into superstition, and art into pedantry. Hence University education.
If history repeats itself, and the unexpected always happens, how incapable must Man be of learning from experience.
Use your health, even to the point of wearing it out. That is what it is for. Spend all you have before you die; do not outlive yourself.
Do not waste your time on Social Questions. What is the matter with the poor is Poverty; what is the matter with the rich is Uselessness.
Success does not consist in never making mistakes but in never making the same one a second time.
He knows nothing and thinks he knows everything. That points clearly to a political career.
Marriage is an alliance entered into by a man who can't sleep with the window shut, and a woman who can't sleep with the window open.
A gentleman is one who puts more into the world than he takes out.
If women were particular about men's characters, they would never get married at all.
Take care to get what you like or you will be forced to like what you get.
Some look at things that are, and ask why. I dream of things that never were and ask why not?
Science never solves a problem without creating ten more.
There are two tragedies in life. One is to lose your heart's desire. The other is to gain it.
Patriotism is your conviction that this country is superior to all others because you were born in it.
The only service a friend can really render is to keep up your courage by holding up to you a mirror in which you can see a noble image of yourself.
Beauty is all very well at first sight; but who ever looks at it when it has been in the house three days?
Better keep yourself clean and bright; you are the window through which you must see the world.
The moment we want to believe something, we suddenly see all the arguments for it, and become blind to the arguments against it.
When I was young, I observed that nine out of ten things I did were failures. So I did ten times more work.
Beware of false knowledge; it is more dangerous than ignorance.
Just do what must be done. This may not be happiness, but it is greatness.
We don't stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.
I learned long ago, never to wrestle with a pig. You get dirty, and besides, the pig likes it.
First love is only a little foolishness and a lot of curiosity.
The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.
People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it.
Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.
We are made wise not by the recollection of our past, but by the responsibility for our future.
If you cannot get rid of the family skeleton, you may as well make it dance.
Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.
The liar's punishment is not in the least that he is not believed, but that he cannot believe anyone else.
Alcohol is the anesthesia by which we endure the operation of life.
A fool's brain digests philosophy into folly, science into superstition, and art into pedantry. Hence University education.
If history repeats itself, and the unexpected always happens, how incapable must Man be of learning from experience.
Use your health, even to the point of wearing it out. That is what it is for. Spend all you have before you die; do not outlive yourself.
Do not waste your time on Social Questions. What is the matter with the poor is Poverty; what is the matter with the rich is Uselessness.
Success does not consist in never making mistakes but in never making the same one a second time.
He knows nothing and thinks he knows everything. That points clearly to a political career.
Marriage is an alliance entered into by a man who can't sleep with the window shut, and a woman who can't sleep with the window open.
A gentleman is one who puts more into the world than he takes out.
If women were particular about men's characters, they would never get married at all.
Take care to get what you like or you will be forced to like what you get.
Some look at things that are, and ask why. I dream of things that never were and ask why not?
Science never solves a problem without creating ten more.
There are two tragedies in life. One is to lose your heart's desire. The other is to gain it.
Patriotism is your conviction that this country is superior to all others because you were born in it.
The only service a friend can really render is to keep up your courage by holding up to you a mirror in which you can see a noble image of yourself.
Beauty is all very well at first sight; but who ever looks at it when it has been in the house three days?
Better keep yourself clean and bright; you are the window through which you must see the world.
The moment we want to believe something, we suddenly see all the arguments for it, and become blind to the arguments against it.
When I was young, I observed that nine out of ten things I did were failures. So I did ten times more work.
Thursday, September 5, 2013
How To Win Friends & Influence People: IF YOU DON’T DO THIS, YOU ARE HEADED FOR TROUBLE.
How To Win Friends & Influence People is a book authored by Dale Carnegie. This blog provides the book summary and encourage to read it.
Chapter 6: IF YOU DON’T DO THIS, YOU ARE HEADED FOR TROUBLE.
I once interviewed Jim Farley and asked him the secret of his success. He said, “Hard work,” and I said, “Don’t be funny.”
He then asked me what I thought was the reason for his success. I replied, "I understand you can call ten thousand people by their first names.”
“No. You are wrong, " he said. “I can call fifty thousand people by their first names.”
Make no mistake about it. That ability helped Mr. Farley put Franklin D. Roosevelt in the White House when he managed Roosevelt’s campaign in 1932.
During the years that he held office as town clerk in Stony Point, he built up a system for remembering names.
In the beginning, it was a very simple one. Whenever he met a new acquaintance, he found out his or her complete name and some facts about his or her family, business and political opinions. He
fixed all these facts well in mind as part of the picture, and the next time he met that person, even if it was a year later, he was able to shake hands, inquire after the family, and ask about the
hollyhocks in the backyard. No wonder he developed a following!
Jim Farley discovered early in life that the average person is more interested in his or her own name than in all the other names on earth put together.Remember that name and call it easily, and
you have paid a subtle and very effective compliment.But forget it or misspell it—and you have placed yourself at a sharp disadvantage.
Sometimes it is difficult to remember a name, particularly if it is hard to pronounce. Rather than even try to learn it, many people ignore it or call the person by an easy nickname. Sid Levy
called on a customer for some time whose name was Nicodemus Papadoulos. Most people just called him “Nick.” Levy told us, “I made a special effort to say his name over several times to myself
before I made my call. When I greeted him by his full name, ‘Good afternoon, Mr. Nicodemus Papadoulos,’ he was shocked. For what seemed like several minutes there was no reply from him at all.
Finally, he said with tears rolling down his cheeks, ‘Mr. Levy, in all the fifteen years I have been in this country, nobody has ever made the effort to call me by my right name.’”
What was the reason for Andrew Carnegie’s success?
He was called the Steel King; yet he himself knew little about the manufacture of steel. He had hundreds of people working for him who knew far more about steel than he did. But he knew how to
handle people, and that is what made him rich. Early in life, he showed a flair for organization, a genius for leadership.
This policy of remembering and honoring the names of his friends and business associates was one of the secrets of Andrew Carnegie’s leadership. He was proud of the fact that he could call many of
his factory workers by their first names, and he boasted that while he was personally in charge, no strike ever disturbed his flaming steel mills.
The executive who tells me he can’t remember names is at the same time telling me he can’t remember a significant part of his business and is operating on quicksand.
a flight attendant for TWA, made it a practice to learn the names of as many passengers in her cabin as possible and use the name when serving them. This resulted in many compliments on her service
expressed both to her directly and to the airline. One passenger wrote, “I haven’t flown TWA for some time, but I’m going to start flying nothing but TWA from now on. You make me feel that your
airline has become a very personalized airline and that is important to me.”
Most people don’t remember names, for the simple reason that they don’t take the time and energy necessary to concentrate and repeat and fix names indelibly in their minds. They make excuses for
themselves; they are too busy.
But they were probably no busier than Franklin D. Roosevelt, and he took time to remember and recall even the names of mechanics with whom he came into contact.
Franklin D. Roosevelt knew that one of the simplest, most obvious and most important ways of gaining good will was by remembering names and making people feel important—yet how many of us do it?
Half the time we are introduced to a stranger, we chat a few minutes and can’t even remember his or her name by the time we say goodbye.
One of the first lessons a politician learns is this: “To recall a voter’s name is statesmanship. To forget it is oblivion.” And the ability to remember names is almost as important in business and
social contacts as it is in politics.
Napoleon the Third, Emperor of France could remember the name of every person he met. His technique? Simple. If he didn’t hear the name distinctly, he said, “So sorry. I didn’t get the name clearly.” Then, if it was an unusual name, he would say, “How is it spelled?”. During the conversation, he took the trouble to repeat the name several times, and tried to associate it in his mind with the person’s features, expression and general appearance.
If the person was someone of importance, Napoleon went to even further pains. As soon as His Royal Highness was alone, he wrote the name down on a piece of paper, looked at it, concentrated on it, fixed it securely in his mind, and then tore up the paper. In this way, he gained an eye impression of the name as well as an ear impression.
All this takes time, but “Good manners, are made up of petty sacrifices"
We should be aware of the magic contained in a name and realize that this single item is wholly and completely owned by the person with whom we are dealing and nobody else. The name sets the individual apart; it makes him or her unique among all others. The information we are imparting or the request we are making takes on a special importance when we approach the situation with the name of the individual. From the waitress to the senior executive, the name will work magic as we deal with others.
PRINCIPLE 3: Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
Chapter 6: IF YOU DON’T DO THIS, YOU ARE HEADED FOR TROUBLE.
I once interviewed Jim Farley and asked him the secret of his success. He said, “Hard work,” and I said, “Don’t be funny.”
He then asked me what I thought was the reason for his success. I replied, "I understand you can call ten thousand people by their first names.”
“No. You are wrong, " he said. “I can call fifty thousand people by their first names.”
Make no mistake about it. That ability helped Mr. Farley put Franklin D. Roosevelt in the White House when he managed Roosevelt’s campaign in 1932.
During the years that he held office as town clerk in Stony Point, he built up a system for remembering names.
In the beginning, it was a very simple one. Whenever he met a new acquaintance, he found out his or her complete name and some facts about his or her family, business and political opinions. He
fixed all these facts well in mind as part of the picture, and the next time he met that person, even if it was a year later, he was able to shake hands, inquire after the family, and ask about the
hollyhocks in the backyard. No wonder he developed a following!
Jim Farley discovered early in life that the average person is more interested in his or her own name than in all the other names on earth put together.Remember that name and call it easily, and
you have paid a subtle and very effective compliment.But forget it or misspell it—and you have placed yourself at a sharp disadvantage.
Sometimes it is difficult to remember a name, particularly if it is hard to pronounce. Rather than even try to learn it, many people ignore it or call the person by an easy nickname. Sid Levy
called on a customer for some time whose name was Nicodemus Papadoulos. Most people just called him “Nick.” Levy told us, “I made a special effort to say his name over several times to myself
before I made my call. When I greeted him by his full name, ‘Good afternoon, Mr. Nicodemus Papadoulos,’ he was shocked. For what seemed like several minutes there was no reply from him at all.
Finally, he said with tears rolling down his cheeks, ‘Mr. Levy, in all the fifteen years I have been in this country, nobody has ever made the effort to call me by my right name.’”
What was the reason for Andrew Carnegie’s success?
He was called the Steel King; yet he himself knew little about the manufacture of steel. He had hundreds of people working for him who knew far more about steel than he did. But he knew how to
handle people, and that is what made him rich. Early in life, he showed a flair for organization, a genius for leadership.
This policy of remembering and honoring the names of his friends and business associates was one of the secrets of Andrew Carnegie’s leadership. He was proud of the fact that he could call many of
his factory workers by their first names, and he boasted that while he was personally in charge, no strike ever disturbed his flaming steel mills.
The executive who tells me he can’t remember names is at the same time telling me he can’t remember a significant part of his business and is operating on quicksand.
a flight attendant for TWA, made it a practice to learn the names of as many passengers in her cabin as possible and use the name when serving them. This resulted in many compliments on her service
expressed both to her directly and to the airline. One passenger wrote, “I haven’t flown TWA for some time, but I’m going to start flying nothing but TWA from now on. You make me feel that your
airline has become a very personalized airline and that is important to me.”
Most people don’t remember names, for the simple reason that they don’t take the time and energy necessary to concentrate and repeat and fix names indelibly in their minds. They make excuses for
themselves; they are too busy.
But they were probably no busier than Franklin D. Roosevelt, and he took time to remember and recall even the names of mechanics with whom he came into contact.
Franklin D. Roosevelt knew that one of the simplest, most obvious and most important ways of gaining good will was by remembering names and making people feel important—yet how many of us do it?
Half the time we are introduced to a stranger, we chat a few minutes and can’t even remember his or her name by the time we say goodbye.
One of the first lessons a politician learns is this: “To recall a voter’s name is statesmanship. To forget it is oblivion.” And the ability to remember names is almost as important in business and
social contacts as it is in politics.
Napoleon the Third, Emperor of France could remember the name of every person he met. His technique? Simple. If he didn’t hear the name distinctly, he said, “So sorry. I didn’t get the name clearly.” Then, if it was an unusual name, he would say, “How is it spelled?”. During the conversation, he took the trouble to repeat the name several times, and tried to associate it in his mind with the person’s features, expression and general appearance.
If the person was someone of importance, Napoleon went to even further pains. As soon as His Royal Highness was alone, he wrote the name down on a piece of paper, looked at it, concentrated on it, fixed it securely in his mind, and then tore up the paper. In this way, he gained an eye impression of the name as well as an ear impression.
All this takes time, but “Good manners, are made up of petty sacrifices"
We should be aware of the magic contained in a name and realize that this single item is wholly and completely owned by the person with whom we are dealing and nobody else. The name sets the individual apart; it makes him or her unique among all others. The information we are imparting or the request we are making takes on a special importance when we approach the situation with the name of the individual. From the waitress to the senior executive, the name will work magic as we deal with others.
PRINCIPLE 3: Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
Tuesday, August 13, 2013
unquote
"Always do more than you get paid for to make an investment in your future"
"More than to anything else, I owe whatever success I have had to the power of settling down to the day's work and trying to do it well to the best of my ability and letting the future take care of itself."
- Sir William Osier
"The secret of being miserable is to have the leisure to bother about whether you are happy or not." Keep active, keep busy!
- George Bernard Shaw
"Having a good time at your work. If you enjoy what you are doing, you may work long hours, but it won't seem like work at all. It will seem like play."
Edison was a good example of that. Edison, the man who often ate and slept in his laboratory and toiled there for eighteen hours a day. But it wasn't toil to him. "I never did a day's work in my life, It was all fun." he exclaimed.
If George Bernard Shaw had not made it a rigid rule to do first things first, he would probably have
failed as a writer and might have remained a bank cashier all his life. His plan called for writing five
pages each day. That plan and his dogged determination to carry it through saved him. That plan
inspired him to go right on writing five pages a day for nine heartbreaking years, even though he made a total of only thirty dollars in those nine years-about a penny a day
"You are in the middle of the battle and you got two paths. Either you quit and run away to abroad nor fight till you die or until you get victory"
"More than to anything else, I owe whatever success I have had to the power of settling down to the day's work and trying to do it well to the best of my ability and letting the future take care of itself."
- Sir William Osier
"The secret of being miserable is to have the leisure to bother about whether you are happy or not." Keep active, keep busy!
- George Bernard Shaw
"Having a good time at your work. If you enjoy what you are doing, you may work long hours, but it won't seem like work at all. It will seem like play."
Edison was a good example of that. Edison, the man who often ate and slept in his laboratory and toiled there for eighteen hours a day. But it wasn't toil to him. "I never did a day's work in my life, It was all fun." he exclaimed.
If George Bernard Shaw had not made it a rigid rule to do first things first, he would probably have
failed as a writer and might have remained a bank cashier all his life. His plan called for writing five
pages each day. That plan and his dogged determination to carry it through saved him. That plan
inspired him to go right on writing five pages a day for nine heartbreaking years, even though he made a total of only thirty dollars in those nine years-about a penny a day
"You are in the middle of the battle and you got two paths. Either you quit and run away to abroad nor fight till you die or until you get victory"
Monday, June 24, 2013
The sovereign voluntary path to cheerfulness
Put a big, broad, honest-to-God smile on your face; throw back your shoulders; take a good, deep breath; and sing a snatch of song. If you can't sing, whistle. If you can't whistle, hum.
"The sovereign voluntary path to cheerfulness, if your cheerfulness be lost, is to sit up cheerfully and to act and speak as if cheerfulness were already there."
You will quickly discover that it is physically impossible to remain depressed while you are acting out the symptoms of being happy!
I found it in the book 'How to stop worrying and start living - Dale Carnegie.
"The sovereign voluntary path to cheerfulness, if your cheerfulness be lost, is to sit up cheerfully and to act and speak as if cheerfulness were already there."
You will quickly discover that it is physically impossible to remain depressed while you are acting out the symptoms of being happy!
I found it in the book 'How to stop worrying and start living - Dale Carnegie.
Just for Today
Just for Today
1) I will be happy (Act cheerfully)2) I will try to adjust (myself to my family, my business, and my luck as they come and not try to adjust everything to my own desires.)
3) I will take care of my body ( do exercise and doesn't neglect it)
4) I will try to strengthen my mind (learn something useful, read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.)
5) I will exercise my soul in three ways ( Do somebody a good and not get found out.Do at least two things I don't want to do)
6) I will be agreeable.( Dress and look well, talk low, act courteously, praise, don't criticise, regulate nor improve anyone.)
7) I will try to live through this day only ( Do important and prioritized tasks)
8) I will have a programme. (write down what I expect to do every hour)
9) I will have a quiet half-hour all by myself and relax.
10) I will be unafraid (to be happy and enjoy beautiful, to love)
Just for Today written by the late Sibyl F. Partridge. I found it in the book 'How to stop worrying and start living - Dale Carnegie
Saturday, June 8, 2013
How To Win Friends & Influence People: A SIMPLE WAY TO MAKE A GOOD IMPRESSION
How To Win Friends & Influence People is a book authored by Dale Carnegie. This blog provides the book summary and encourage to read it.
Chapter 5: A SIMPLE WAY TO MAKE A GOOD IMPRESSION
Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, “I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you.” That is why dogs make such a hit. They are so glad to see us that they almost jump out of their skins. So, naturally, we are glad to see them.
A baby’s smile has the same effect
An insincere grin? No. That doesn't fool anybody. We know it is mechanical and we resent it. I am talking about a real smile, a heartwarming smile, a smile that comes from within, the kind of smile that will bring a good price in the marketplace.
People who smile, tend to manage teach and sell more effectively, and to raise happier children. There’s far more information in a smile than a frown. That’s why encouragement is a much more effective teaching device than punishment.
Robert Cryer, manager of a computer department for a Cincinnati, Ohio, company, told how he had successfully found the right applicant for a hard-to-fill position, “I was desperately trying to recruit a Ph.D. in computer science for my department. I finally located a young man with ideal qualifications who was about to be graduated from Purdue University. After several phone conversations I learned that he had several offers from other companies, many of them larger and better known than mine. I was delighted when he accepted my offer. After he started on the job, I asked him why he had chosen us over the others. He paused for a moment and then he said, ‘I think it was because managers in the other companies spoke on the phone in a cold, business-like manner, which made me feel like just another business transaction. Your voice sounded as if you were glad to hear from me…that you really wanted me to be part of your organization.’ You can be assured, I am still answering my phone with a smile.”
people rarely succeed at anything unless they have fun doing it
You must have a good time meeting people if you expect them to have a good time meeting you.
I have asked thousands of business people to smile at someone every hour of the day for a week and then come to class and talk about the results. How did it work?
I have been married for over eighteen years,and in all that time I seldom smiled at my wife or spoke two dozen words to her from the time I got up until I was ready to leave for business. As I sat down to breakfast, I greeted my wife with a ‘Good morning, my dear,’ and smiled as I said it. As I leave for my office, I greet the elevator operator in the apartment house with a ‘Good morning’ and a smile, I greet the doorman with a smile. I smile at the cashier in the subway booth when I ask for change. As I stand on the floor of the Stock Exchange, I smile at people who until recently never saw me smile. I soon found that everybody was smiling back at me, I treat those who come to me with complaints or grievances in a cheerful manner, I smile as I listen to them and I find that adjustments are accomplished much easier. I find that smiles are bringing me dollars, many dollars every day. I have also eliminated criticism from my system. I give appreciation and praise now instead of condemnation. I have stopped talking about what I want. I am now trying to see the other person’s viewpoint. And these things have literally revolutionized my life. I am a totally different man, a happier man, a richer man, richer in friendships and happiness—the only things that matter much after all.
You don’t feel like smiling? Then what? Two things. First, force yourself to smile. If you are alone, force yourself to whistle or hum a tune or sing. Act as if you were already happy, and that will tend to make you happy.
Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not.
Everybody in the world is seeking happiness, and there is one sure way to find it. That is by controlling your thoughts. Happiness doesn't depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions.
It isn't what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.
For example, two people may be in the same place, doing the same thing; both may have about an equal amount of money and prestige, and yet one may be miserable and the other happy. Why? Because of a different mental attitude. I have seen just as many happy faces among the poor peasants toiling with their primitive tools in the devastating heat of the tropics as I have seen in air-conditioned offices in New York, Chicago or Los Angeles.
There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.
“most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
when a boy realizes that he is going to be a cripple for life, he is shocked at first; but after he gets over the shock, he usually resigns himself to his fate and then becomes as happy as normal boys.
Working all by oneself in a closed-off room in an office not only is lonely, but it denies one the opportunity of making friends with other employees in the company.
she said to herself, “Maria, you can’t expect those women to come to you. You have to go out and meet them.” The next time she walked to the water cooler, she put on her brightest smile and said, “Hi, how are you today?” to each of the people she met. The effect was immediate. Smiles and hellos were returned, the hallway seemed brighter, the job friendlier
Whenever you go out-of-doors, carry the crown of the head high, greet your friends with a smile, and put soul into every handclasp. Do not fear being misunderstood and do not waste a minute thinking about your enemies. Try to fix firmly in your mind what you would like to do; and then, without veering off direction, you will move straight to the goal. Keep your mind on the great and splendid things you would like to do, and then, as the days go gliding away, you will find yourself unconsciously seizing upon the opportunities that are required for the fulfillment of your desire. Picture in your mind the able, earnest, useful person you desire to be, and the thought you hold is hourly transforming you into that particular individual…
Thought is supreme. Preserve a right mental attitude—the attitude of courage, frankness, and good cheer. To think rightly is to create. All things come through desire and every sincere prayer is answered. We become like that on which our hearts are fixed.
“A man without a smiling face must not open a shop.”
Especially when that someone is under pressure from his bosses, his customers, his teachers or parents or children, a smile can help him realize that all is not hopeless—that there is joy in the world.
PRINCIPLE 2: Smile.
Wednesday, May 29, 2013
Developing an appetite for hard ideas - Scott H Young
Original link: http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2011/08/09/learning-smart-hard-ideas/
Highlights:
After reading Feynman’s memoirs, a different idea struck me. While his intelligence is obvious, what impressed me most was his persistence in learning hard ideas. He would reread physics papers meticulously for hours, and all of their sources, until he understood an idea from the bottom up
Perhaps genius isn’t best defined by raw intellectual ability. Instead, maybe it’s the appetite for hard ideas that makes someone smart.
Intelligence as Endurance
Students who believed smarts were malleable wanted to take on harder challenges, and became smarter than students with more talent but less motivation.
In my own experience working with students, I’ve seen how appetite for hard ideas translates to success. When faced with a concept that they don’t understand, most students simply accept the correct definition and memorize the solution. Top learners don’t do this—they struggle obsessively to figure it out.
Hunger for Hard Ideas
A hunger for hard ideas is a specific subset of curiosity. It’s seeking explanations for things because they are hard to understand. Because, when those ideas are understood, the satisfaction of knowing something difficult to learn is even greater.
People who believe in superstitions lack this hunger. They are curious for explanations, but they prefer naïve explanations that are easily understood. They prefer incorrect explanations, than accepting hard ideas exist.
Developing Your Appetite
If you believe certain domains of knowledge are too difficult for you to understand, then you’ll avoid hard ideas.
People with the right attitude believe no idea is too difficult to understand. The only reason you don’t know everything is that you haven’t spent the time to learn it all yet. Effort is the only barrier, not ability in 99% of all cases.
Feynman was a perfect example of this. He may be renown for physics, but less people know he was also an amateur musician, artist, linguist, engineer and lock picker. There isn’t enough time in one life to become perfect at everything, but that’s a constraint of lifespan, not talent.
Seeking Hard Ideas – Why Aren’t More People Autodidacts?
A question that has bothered me is, why aren’t more people self-educated? With the internet’s immense resources, almost anything can be learned online for free, or for a fraction of the cost of tuition.
Some possible answers are that learning is difficult without instruction, the content is boring, there aren’t good systems for proving knowledge obtained outside of an institution. To a certain extent these are all correct.
However, a bigger culprit is that people simply don’t like hard ideas. The reason millions of people pay billions of dollars to attend university, but only a tiny fraction watches brilliant MIT, Harvard or Stanford lectures online is because most people won’t learn for fun. Without the prospect of a diploma, most people would rather watch television.
Those people, armed with the near-infinite resources of our age and a hunger to learn for the sake of learning, will outrun the prodigies and gifted who shy away from the challenge.
Highlights:
After reading Feynman’s memoirs, a different idea struck me. While his intelligence is obvious, what impressed me most was his persistence in learning hard ideas. He would reread physics papers meticulously for hours, and all of their sources, until he understood an idea from the bottom up
Perhaps genius isn’t best defined by raw intellectual ability. Instead, maybe it’s the appetite for hard ideas that makes someone smart.
Intelligence as Endurance
Students who believed smarts were malleable wanted to take on harder challenges, and became smarter than students with more talent but less motivation.
In my own experience working with students, I’ve seen how appetite for hard ideas translates to success. When faced with a concept that they don’t understand, most students simply accept the correct definition and memorize the solution. Top learners don’t do this—they struggle obsessively to figure it out.
Hunger for Hard Ideas
A hunger for hard ideas is a specific subset of curiosity. It’s seeking explanations for things because they are hard to understand. Because, when those ideas are understood, the satisfaction of knowing something difficult to learn is even greater.
People who believe in superstitions lack this hunger. They are curious for explanations, but they prefer naïve explanations that are easily understood. They prefer incorrect explanations, than accepting hard ideas exist.
Developing Your Appetite
If you believe certain domains of knowledge are too difficult for you to understand, then you’ll avoid hard ideas.
People with the right attitude believe no idea is too difficult to understand. The only reason you don’t know everything is that you haven’t spent the time to learn it all yet. Effort is the only barrier, not ability in 99% of all cases.
Feynman was a perfect example of this. He may be renown for physics, but less people know he was also an amateur musician, artist, linguist, engineer and lock picker. There isn’t enough time in one life to become perfect at everything, but that’s a constraint of lifespan, not talent.
Seeking Hard Ideas – Why Aren’t More People Autodidacts?
A question that has bothered me is, why aren’t more people self-educated? With the internet’s immense resources, almost anything can be learned online for free, or for a fraction of the cost of tuition.
Some possible answers are that learning is difficult without instruction, the content is boring, there aren’t good systems for proving knowledge obtained outside of an institution. To a certain extent these are all correct.
However, a bigger culprit is that people simply don’t like hard ideas. The reason millions of people pay billions of dollars to attend university, but only a tiny fraction watches brilliant MIT, Harvard or Stanford lectures online is because most people won’t learn for fun. Without the prospect of a diploma, most people would rather watch television.
Those people, armed with the near-infinite resources of our age and a hunger to learn for the sake of learning, will outrun the prodigies and gifted who shy away from the challenge.
Friday, May 24, 2013
Twenty Ways to Stay Productive When Working at Home - Scott H Young
Highlights
1) Build a Work Ethic2) Don’t Overestimate Your Productivity
3) Don’t Count the Low-Value Tasks
4) Cut Out Distractions
5) Start Early
6) Know Thy Energy
7) Learn to Say No
8) Set Daily Goals
9) Use Parkinsons Law - a task will expand to the time you give it. Crunch your workload by giving yourself only a few minutes to finish tasks where completion is more important than perfection.
10) Learn to Churn - This means that once you run out of ideas, you tell yourself that your goal is volume not quality. Tell yourself that you will redo it later if it is too horrible.
11) Create a Professional Space
12) Set Work Hours
13) What’s Your MIT? Always know what your Most Important Task is. Even if the rest of the day is unproductive, your day was still valuable if you get that task done.
14) Have a Social Life
15) Vary Your Tasks - I like to split up different tasks throughout the day so I can use different mental “muscles.” This keeps me fresh and productive without the need for long breaks.
16) Boredom before Quitting - resist the temptation to go online or do something else. Even if you could postpone your work hours, stick it through another ten or fifteen minutes.
17) Get Outside Perspectives
18) Give Yourself Overtime
19) The Extra 15 - When you get stuck or feel a strong urge to quit, just commit to do an extra fifteen minutes of work. Usually this is enough to carry you out of the slump and move forward. If it isn’t then you probably need a break.
20) Utilize Your Flexibility
Double Your Reading Rate/How to Read 70+ Books in a Year - Scott H Young
Double Your Reading Rate
Original author/link: http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/03/10/double-your-reading-rate/
Highlights:
I believe there are six major keys to improving your reading skill. Like all skills, success only comes through practice, so just reading this article won’t be enough. But if you are interested in how you might be able to make dramatic improvements in both speed and comprehension, I’ve found these six points to be the best start.
1) Remember, Reading is Not Linear
2) Stop Subvocalizing
3) Practice Reading
Practice reading doesn’t mean reading. Practice reading involves reading faster than you can actually read. Chances are you won’t comprehend much of what you are reading because your brain is so used to going at a slower rate and subvocalizing. The point is simply to see the text faster than you can read so you can untie the habit of sounding the words as you comprehend them.
4) Use a Pointer
5) Eliminate Distractions
6) Find Your Motivation
Original link: http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/08/06/how-to-read-70-books-in-a-year/
Highlights:
Step One: Learn to Speed Read
Step Two: Always Have a Book
Step Three: One Book at a Time
Step Four: Fill Gap Time With Reading
Step Five: Cut the Television and Web-Surfing
Step Six: Keep a To-Read List
Getting Started
Set a one month reading goal. Try to read 10-30 pages a day just for the next month. Nothing too challenging, but enough to help you install the habits of regular reading.
Original author/link: http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/03/10/double-your-reading-rate/
Highlights:
I believe there are six major keys to improving your reading skill. Like all skills, success only comes through practice, so just reading this article won’t be enough. But if you are interested in how you might be able to make dramatic improvements in both speed and comprehension, I’ve found these six points to be the best start.
1) Remember, Reading is Not Linear
2) Stop Subvocalizing
3) Practice Reading
Practice reading doesn’t mean reading. Practice reading involves reading faster than you can actually read. Chances are you won’t comprehend much of what you are reading because your brain is so used to going at a slower rate and subvocalizing. The point is simply to see the text faster than you can read so you can untie the habit of sounding the words as you comprehend them.
4) Use a Pointer
5) Eliminate Distractions
6) Find Your Motivation
How to Read 70+ Books in a Year
Original link: http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/08/06/how-to-read-70-books-in-a-year/
Highlights:
Step One: Learn to Speed Read
Step Two: Always Have a Book
Step Three: One Book at a Time
Step Four: Fill Gap Time With Reading
Step Five: Cut the Television and Web-Surfing
Step Six: Keep a To-Read List
Getting Started
Set a one month reading goal. Try to read 10-30 pages a day just for the next month. Nothing too challenging, but enough to help you install the habits of regular reading.
How to Get More Done in Less Time
http://jimsmarketingblog.com/2013/04/09/how-to-get-more-done-in-less-time-and-improve-your-thinking/
Highlights:
Reacting or acting?
You can start the day by checking your email inbox and reacting to what you find. Alternatively, you can start your day by listing what’s most important and getting started on that – then opening your email.
You can react every time your phone alerts you to a text message. Alternatively, you can finish what needs finishing and then read any messages you’ve received.
You can react every time you see a social networking notification. Alternatively, you can wait until you’ve stopped for a coffee etc, then use that time to check your notifications.
Regaining your time and your focus
One of the reasons small business owners find it such a challenge to get important things done, is that the distractions they react to, cause them to lose focus. This is especially the case, when they need to do something creative, like writing a blog post or writing some marketing material, etc.
Here’s the thing: It’s extremely hard to focus on something that requires your creativity, when you allow yourself to be distracted and your focus to be scattered.
For example, if you want to write a newsletter article first thing tomorrow morning, but you decide to read your emails first, instead of focusing on your article, you will find your focus scattered between the article and all the questions and demands from your inbox. By writing the article and then dealing with your emails, you can focus 100% on the article. You end up with a better article and then get to invest all your focus, on dealing with your emails
Getting through the day or from the day?
Most small business owners are happy to just get through the day. However, the most successful business owners take a different approach. They get from the day. They start their day with a list of important objectives and then determine to master their time and their focus, so the important things are always taken care of, with their full attention, in reasonable time.
Highlights:
Reacting or acting?
You can start the day by checking your email inbox and reacting to what you find. Alternatively, you can start your day by listing what’s most important and getting started on that – then opening your email.
You can react every time your phone alerts you to a text message. Alternatively, you can finish what needs finishing and then read any messages you’ve received.
You can react every time you see a social networking notification. Alternatively, you can wait until you’ve stopped for a coffee etc, then use that time to check your notifications.
Regaining your time and your focus
One of the reasons small business owners find it such a challenge to get important things done, is that the distractions they react to, cause them to lose focus. This is especially the case, when they need to do something creative, like writing a blog post or writing some marketing material, etc.
Here’s the thing: It’s extremely hard to focus on something that requires your creativity, when you allow yourself to be distracted and your focus to be scattered.
For example, if you want to write a newsletter article first thing tomorrow morning, but you decide to read your emails first, instead of focusing on your article, you will find your focus scattered between the article and all the questions and demands from your inbox. By writing the article and then dealing with your emails, you can focus 100% on the article. You end up with a better article and then get to invest all your focus, on dealing with your emails
Getting through the day or from the day?
Most small business owners are happy to just get through the day. However, the most successful business owners take a different approach. They get from the day. They start their day with a list of important objectives and then determine to master their time and their focus, so the important things are always taken care of, with their full attention, in reasonable time.
Sunday, May 19, 2013
How To Win Friends & Influence People : DO THIS AND YOU’LL BE WELCOME ANYWHERE
How To Win Friends & Influence People is a book authored by Dale Carnegie. This blog provides the book summary and encourage to read it.
Chapter 4: DO THIS AND YOU’LL BE WELCOME ANYWHERE.”
You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
People are not interested in you. They are not interested in me. They are interested in themselves—morning, noon and after dinner.
The New York Telephone Company made a detailed study of telephone conversations to find out which word is the most frequently used. You have guessed it: it is the personal pronoun “I.” “I.” “I.” It was used 3,900 times in 500 telephone conversations. “I.” “I.” “I.” “I.” When you see a group photograph that you are in, whose picture do you look for first?
“It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring.”
You have to be interested in people if you want to be a successful writer of stories.
Howard Thurston was the acknowledged dean of magicians. he had two things that the others didn’t have. First, he had the ability to put his personality across the footlights. He was a master showman. He knew human nature. Everything he did, every gesture, every intonation of his voice, every lifting of an eyebrow had been carefully rehearsed in advance, and his actions were timed to split seconds. But, in addition to that, Thurston had a genuine interest in people. He told me that many magicians would look at the audience and say to themselves, “Well, there is a bunch of suckers out there, a bunch of hicks; I’ll fool them all right.” But Thurston’s method was totally different. He told me that every time he went on stage he said to himself, “I am grateful because these people come to see me. They make it possible for me to make my living in a very agreeable way. I’m going to give them the very best I possibly can.”
When we heard Uncle George, he was seventy-two and enjoying every minute of his life. By having a sustained interest in other people, he created a new life for himself at a time when most people consider their productive years over.
Roosevelt called at the White House one day when the President and Mrs. Taft were away. His honest liking for humble people was shown by the fact that he greeted all the old White House servants by name, even the scullery maids.
To be genuinely interested in other people is a most important quality for a sales-person to possess—for any person, for that matter.
I have discovered from personal experience that one can win the attention and time and cooperation of even the most sought-after people by becoming genuinely interested in them.
All of us, be we workers in a factory, clerks in an office or even a king upon his throne—all of us like people who admire us.
If we want to make friends, let’s put ourselves out to do things for other people—things that require time, energy, unselfishness and thoughtfulness.
When the Duke of Windsor was Prince of Wales, he was scheduled to tour South America, and before he started out on that tour he spent months studying Spanish so that he could make public talks in the language of the country; and the South Americans loved him for it.
For years I made it a point to find out the birthdays of my friends. When the natal day arrived, there was my letter or telegram. What a hit it made! I was frequently the only person on earth who remembered.
If we want to make friends, let’s greet people with animation and enthusiasm. When somebody calls you on the telephone use the same psychology. Say “Hello” in tones that bespeak how pleased YOU are to have the person call. Many companies train their telephone operators to greet all callers in a tone of voice that radiates interest and enthusiasm. The caller feels the company is concerned about them. Let’s remember that when we answer the telephone tomorrow.
Showing a genuine interest in others not only wins friends for you, but may develop in its customers a loyalty to your company.
I had made more headway in two hours by becoming genuinely interested in him and his problems than I could have made in ten years trying to get him interested in me and my product.
A show of interest, as with every other principle of human relations, must be sincere. It must pay off not only for the person showing the interest, but for the person receiving the attention.
If you want others to like you, if you want to develop real friendships, if you want to help others at the same time as you help yourself, keep this principle in mind:
PRINCIPLE 1: Become genuinely interested in other people.
How To Win Friends & Influence People :HE WHO CAN DO THIS HAS THE WHOLE WORLD WITH HIM.
How To Win Friends & Influence People is a book authored by Dale Carnegie. This blog provides the book summary and encourage to read it.
Chapter 3: HE WHO CAN DO THIS HAS THE WHOLE WORLD WITH HIM. HE WHO CANNOT WALKS A LONELY WAY.
I often went fishing up in Maine during the summer. Personally I am very fond of strawberries and cream, but I have found that for some strange reason, fish prefer worms. So when I went fishing, I didn't think about what I wanted. I thought about what they wanted. I didn't bait the hook with strawberries and cream. Rather, I dangled a worm or a grasshopper in front of the fish and said, “ Wouldn't you like to have that?”
Why not use the same common sense when fishing for people?
Why talk about what we want? That is childish. Absurd. Of course, you are interested in what you want. You are eternally interested in it. But no one else is. The rest of us are just like you: we are interested in what we want.
So the only way on earth to influence other people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it.
Remember that tomorrow when you are trying to get somebody to do something. If, for example, you don’t want your children to smoke, don’t preach at them, and don’t talk about what you want; but show them that cigarettes may keep them from making the basketball team or winning the hundred-yard dash.
Every act you have ever performed since the day you were born was performed because you wanted something.
“Action springs out of what we fundamentally desire, and the best piece of advice which can be given to would-be persuaders, whether in business, in the home, in the school, in politics, is: First, arouse in the other person an eager want. He who can do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot walks a lonely way.”
Andrew Carnegie, the poverty-stricken Scotch lad who started to work at two cents an hour and finally gave away $365 million, learned early in life that the only way to influence people is to talk in terms of what the other person wants. He attended school only four years; yet he learned how to handle people
Tomorrow you may want to persuade somebody to do something. Before you speak, pause and ask yourself: “How can I make this person want to do it?”. That question will stop us from rushing into a situation heedlessly, with futile chatter about our desires.
“If there is any one secret of success,” said Henry Ford, “it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from your own.”
The rare individual who unselfishly tries to serve others has an enormous advantage. He has little competition.
“People who can put themselves in the place of other people who can understand the workings of their minds, need never worry about what the future has in store for them.”
If out of reading this book you get just one thing—an increased tendency to think always in terms of other people’s point of view, and see things from their angle—if you get that one thing out of this book, it may easily prove to be one of the building blocks of your career.
Looking at the other person’s point of view and arousing in him an eager want for something is not to be construed as manipulating that person so that he will do something that is only for your benefit and his detriment. Each party should gain from the negotiation.
PRINCIPLE 3: Arouse in the other person an eager want.
Sunday, May 12, 2013
How To Win Friends & Influence People : THE BIG SECRET OF DEALING WITH PEOPLE
How To Win Friends & Influence People is a book authored by Dale Carnegie. This blog provides the book summary and encourage to read it.
Chapter 2: THE BIG SECRET OF DEALING WITH PEOPLE.
There is only one way under high heaven to get anybody to do anything. Did you ever stop to think of that? Yes, just one way. And that is by making the other person want to do it.
You can make your employees give you cooperation—until your back is turned—by threatening to fire them. You can make a child do what you want it to do by a whip or a threat. But these crude methods have sharply undesirable repercussions.
The only way I can get you to do anything is by giving you what you want.
Everything you and I do springs from two motives: the sex urge and the desire to be great.
The deepest urge in human nature is “the desire to be important".
Everybody likes a compliment.
The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.
It was this desire for a feeling of importance that led an uneducated, poverty-stricken grocery clerk to study some law books he found in the bottom of a barrel of household plunder that he had bought for fifty cents. You have probably heard of this grocery clerk. His name was Lincoln.
This desire made Rockefeller amass millions that he never spent! And this same desire made the richest family in your town build a house far too large for its requirements.
This desire makes you want to wear the latest styles, drive the latest cars, and talk about your brilliant children. It is this desire that lures many boys and girls into joining gangs and engaging in criminal activities.
If you tell me how you get your feeling of importance, I’ll tell you what you are. That determines your character.
One of the first people in American business to be paid a salary of over a million dollars a year was Charles Schwab, who had been picked by Andrew Carnegie to become the first president of the newly formed United States Steel Company in 1921, when he was only thirty-eight years old.
Why did Andrew Carnegie pay more than three thousand dollars a day, to Charles Schwab? Why? Because Schwab was a genius? No. Because he knew more about the manufacture of steel than other people? Nonsense. Charles Schwab told me himself that he had many men working for him who knew more about the manufacture of steel than he did.
Schwab says that he was paid this salary largely because of his ability to deal with people. I asked him how he did it. Here is his secret set down in his own words
“I consider my ability to arouse enthusiasm among my people, the greatest asset I possess, and the way to develop the best that is in a person is by appreciation and encouragement."
“There is nothing else that so kills the ambitions of a person as criticisms from superiors. I never criticize anyone. I believe in giving a person incentive to work. So I am anxious to praise but loath to find fault. If I like anything, I am hearty in my approbation and lavish in my praise.”
That is what Schwab did.
But what do average people do? The exact opposite. If they don’t like a thing, they bawl out their subordinates; if they do like it, they say nothing. As the old couplet says: “Once I did bad and that I heard ever/Twice I did good, but that I heard never.”
One of the first people in American business to be paid a salary of over a million dollars a year was Charles Schwab, who had been picked by Andrew Carnegie to become the first president of the newly formed United States Steel Company in 1921, when he was only thirty-eight years old.
Why did Andrew Carnegie pay more than three thousand dollars a day, to Charles Schwab? Why? Because Schwab was a genius? No. Because he knew more about the manufacture of steel than other people? Nonsense. Charles Schwab told me himself that he had many men working for him who knew more about the manufacture of steel than he did.
Schwab says that he was paid this salary largely because of his ability to deal with people. I asked him how he did it. Here is his secret set down in his own words
“I consider my ability to arouse enthusiasm among my people, the greatest asset I possess, and the way to develop the best that is in a person is by appreciation and encouragement."
“There is nothing else that so kills the ambitions of a person as criticisms from superiors. I never criticize anyone. I believe in giving a person incentive to work. So I am anxious to praise but loath to find fault. If I like anything, I am hearty in my approbation and lavish in my praise.”
That is what Schwab did.
But what do average people do? The exact opposite. If they don’t like a thing, they bawl out their subordinates; if they do like it, they say nothing. As the old couplet says: “Once I did bad and that I heard ever/Twice I did good, but that I heard never.”
Carnegie wanted to praise his assistants even on his tombstone. He wrote an epitaph for himself which read: “Here lies one who knew how to get around him men who were cleverer than himself.”
When a study was made a few years ago on runaway wives, what do you think was discovered to be the main reason wives ran away? It was “lack of appreciation”. And I’d bet that a similar study made of runaway husbands would come out the same way. We often take our spouses so much for granted that we never let them know we appreciate them.
The difference between appreciation and flattery? That is simple. One is sincere and the other insincere. One comes from the heart out; the other from the teeth out. One is unselfish; the other selfish. One is universally admired; the other universally condemned.
Don’t be afraid of enemies who attack you. Be afraid of the friends who flatter you.
Flattery is telling the other person precisely what he thinks about himself.One of the most neglected virtues of our daily existence is appreciation, Somehow, we neglect to praise our son or daughter when he or she brings home a good report card, and we fail to encourage our children when they first succeed in baking a cake or building a birdhouse.
Nothing pleases children more than this kind of parental interest and approval.
The next time you enjoy filet mignon at the club, send word to the chef that it was excellently prepared, and when a tired salesperson shows you unusual courtesy, please mention it
Hurting people not only does not change them, it is never called for.
Emerson said: “Every man I meet is my superior in some way, In that, I learn of him.”
Let’s try to figure out the other person’s good points. Then forget flattery. Give honest, sincere appreciation. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise,” and people will cherish your words and treasure them and repeat them over a lifetime—repeat them years after you have forgotten them.
PRINCIPLE 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation.
When a study was made a few years ago on runaway wives, what do you think was discovered to be the main reason wives ran away? It was “lack of appreciation”. And I’d bet that a similar study made of runaway husbands would come out the same way. We often take our spouses so much for granted that we never let them know we appreciate them.
The difference between appreciation and flattery? That is simple. One is sincere and the other insincere. One comes from the heart out; the other from the teeth out. One is unselfish; the other selfish. One is universally admired; the other universally condemned.
Don’t be afraid of enemies who attack you. Be afraid of the friends who flatter you.
Flattery is telling the other person precisely what he thinks about himself.One of the most neglected virtues of our daily existence is appreciation, Somehow, we neglect to praise our son or daughter when he or she brings home a good report card, and we fail to encourage our children when they first succeed in baking a cake or building a birdhouse.
Nothing pleases children more than this kind of parental interest and approval.
The next time you enjoy filet mignon at the club, send word to the chef that it was excellently prepared, and when a tired salesperson shows you unusual courtesy, please mention it
Hurting people not only does not change them, it is never called for.
Emerson said: “Every man I meet is my superior in some way, In that, I learn of him.”
Let’s try to figure out the other person’s good points. Then forget flattery. Give honest, sincere appreciation. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise,” and people will cherish your words and treasure them and repeat them over a lifetime—repeat them years after you have forgotten them.
PRINCIPLE 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation.
Thursday, May 9, 2013
FATHER FORGETS - By W. Livingston Larned
Listen, son: I am saying this as you lie asleep, one little paw crumpled under your cheek and the blond curls stickily wet on your damp forehead. I have stolen into your room alone. Just a few minutes ago, as I sat reading my paper in the library, a stifling wave of remorse swept over me. Guiltily I came to your bedside.
There are the things I was thinking, son: I had been cross to you. I scolded you as you were dressing for school because you gave your face merely a dab with a towel. I took you to task for not cleaning your shoes. I called out angrily when you threw some of your things on the floor.
At breakfast I found fault, too. You spilled things. You gulped down your food. You put your elbows on the table. You spread butter too thick on your bread. And as you started off to play and I made for my train, you turned and waved a hand and called, “Goodbye, Daddy!” and I frowned, and said in reply, “Hold your shoulders back!”
Then it began all over again in the late afternoon. As I came up the road I spied you, down on your knees, playing marbles. There were holes in your stockings. I humiliated you before your boyfriends by marching you ahead of me to the house. Stockings were expensive, and if you had to buy them you would be more careful! Imagine that, son, from a father!
Do you remember, later, when I was reading in the library, how you came in timidly, with a sort of hurt look in your eyes? When I glanced up over my paper, impatient at the interruption, you hesitated at the door. “What is it you want?” I snapped.
You said nothing, but ran across in one tempestuous plunge, and threw your arms around my neck and kissed me, and your small arms tightened with an affection that God had set blooming in your heart and which even neglect could not wither. And then you were gone, pattering up the stairs.
Well, son, it was shortly afterwards that my paper slipped from my hands and a terrible sickening fear came over me. What has habit been doing to me? The habit of finding fault, of reprimanding—this was my reward to you for being a boy. It was not that I did not love you; it was that I expected too much of youth. I was measuring you by the yardstick of my own years.
And there was so much that was good and fine and true in your character. The little heart of you was as big as the dawn itself over the wide hills. This was shown by your spontaneous impulse to rush in and kiss me goodnight. Nothing else matters tonight, son. I have come to your bedside in the darkness, and I have knelt there, ashamed!
It is a feeble atonement; I know you would not understand these things if I told them to you during your waking hours. But tomorrow I will be a real daddy! I will chum with you, and suffer when you suffer, and laugh when you laugh. I will bite my tongue when impatient words come. I will keep saying as if it were a ritual: “He is nothing but a boy—a little boy!”
I am afraid I have visualized you as a man. Yet as I see you now, son, crumpled and weary in your cot, I see that you are still a baby. Yesterday you were in your mother’s arms, your head on her shoulder. I have asked too much, too much.
How To Win Friends & Influence People : IF YOU WANT TO GATHER HONEY, DON’T KICK OVER THE BEEHIVE.
How To Win Friends & Influence People is a book authored by Dale Carnegie. This blog provides the book summary and encourage to read it.
Ninety-nine times out of a hundred, people don’t criticize themselves for anything, no matter how wrong it may be.
Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person’s precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses resentment.
B. F. Skinner, the world-famous psychologist, proved through his experiments that an animal rewarded for good behavior will learn much more rapidly and retain what it learns far more effectively than an animal punished for bad behavior. Later studies have shown that the same applies to humans. By criticizing, we do not make lasting changes and often incur resentment.
Hans Selye, another great psychologist, said, “As much as we thirst for approval, we dread condemnation.”
The resentment that criticism engenders can demoralize employees, family members and friends, and still not correct the situation that has been condemned.
Human nature in action, wrongdoers, blaming everybody but themselves.
Let’s realize that criticisms are like homing pigeons. They always return home. Let’s realize that the person we are going to correct and condemn will probably justify himself or herself, and condemn us in return.
And when Mrs. Lincoln and others spoke harshly of the southern people, Lincoln replied, “Don’t criticize them; they are just what we would be under similar circumstances.”
Theodore Roosevelt said that when he, as President, was confronted with a perplexing problem, he used to lean back and look up at a large painting of Lincoln which hung above his desk in the White House and ask himself, “What would Lincoln do if he were in my shoes? How would he solve this problem?”
The next time we are tempted to admonish somebody, let’s pull a five-dollar bill out of our pocket, look at Lincoln’s picture on the bill, and ask. “How would Lincoln handle this problem if he had it?”
“Don’t complain about the snow on your neighbor’s roof,” said Confucius, “when your own doorstep is unclean.”
When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.
Benjamin Franklin, tactless in his youth, became so diplomatic, so adroit at handling people, that he was made American Ambassador to France. The secret of his success? “I will speak ill of no man,” he said, "and speak all the good I know of everybody.”
Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain, and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving
“A great man shows his greatness,” said Carlyle, “by the way he treats little men.”
Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do. That’s a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism, and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness. “To know all is to forgive all.”
As Dr. Johnson said, “God himself, sir, does not propose to judge man until the end of his days.”
Why should you and I?
PRINCIPLE 1: Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
Chapter 1: IF YOU WANT TO GATHER HONEY, DON’T KICK OVER THE BEEHIVE.
John Wanamaker, founder of the stores that bear his name, once confessed, “I learned thirty years ago that it is foolish to scold. I have enough trouble overcoming my own limitations without fretting over the fact that God has not seen fit to distribute evenly the gift of intelligence.”Ninety-nine times out of a hundred, people don’t criticize themselves for anything, no matter how wrong it may be.
Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person’s precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses resentment.
B. F. Skinner, the world-famous psychologist, proved through his experiments that an animal rewarded for good behavior will learn much more rapidly and retain what it learns far more effectively than an animal punished for bad behavior. Later studies have shown that the same applies to humans. By criticizing, we do not make lasting changes and often incur resentment.
Hans Selye, another great psychologist, said, “As much as we thirst for approval, we dread condemnation.”
The resentment that criticism engenders can demoralize employees, family members and friends, and still not correct the situation that has been condemned.
Human nature in action, wrongdoers, blaming everybody but themselves.
Let’s realize that criticisms are like homing pigeons. They always return home. Let’s realize that the person we are going to correct and condemn will probably justify himself or herself, and condemn us in return.
And when Mrs. Lincoln and others spoke harshly of the southern people, Lincoln replied, “Don’t criticize them; they are just what we would be under similar circumstances.”
Theodore Roosevelt said that when he, as President, was confronted with a perplexing problem, he used to lean back and look up at a large painting of Lincoln which hung above his desk in the White House and ask himself, “What would Lincoln do if he were in my shoes? How would he solve this problem?”
The next time we are tempted to admonish somebody, let’s pull a five-dollar bill out of our pocket, look at Lincoln’s picture on the bill, and ask. “How would Lincoln handle this problem if he had it?”
“Don’t complain about the snow on your neighbor’s roof,” said Confucius, “when your own doorstep is unclean.”
When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.
Benjamin Franklin, tactless in his youth, became so diplomatic, so adroit at handling people, that he was made American Ambassador to France. The secret of his success? “I will speak ill of no man,” he said, "and speak all the good I know of everybody.”
Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain, and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving
“A great man shows his greatness,” said Carlyle, “by the way he treats little men.”
Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do. That’s a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism, and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness. “To know all is to forgive all.”
As Dr. Johnson said, “God himself, sir, does not propose to judge man until the end of his days.”
Why should you and I?
PRINCIPLE 1: Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
Monday, April 29, 2013
How To Stop Worrying And Start Living : A Magic Formula for Solving Worry Situations
"How To Stop Worrying And Start Living" is a book authored by Dale Carnegie. This blog provides the book summary and encourage to read it.
Chapter 2 - A Magic Formula For Solving Worry Situations - Higlights
I have been using this same anti-worry technique for more than thirty years.
It consists of three steps:
Step I. Figured out what was the worst that could possibly happen as a result of this failure.
Step II. Accepting it, if necessary.
Step III. From that time on, I calmly devoted my time and energy to trying to improve upon the worst which I had already accepted mentally.
When we worry, our minds jump here and there and everywhere, and we lose all power of decision. However, when we force ourselves to face the worst and accept it mentally, we then eliminate all those vague imaginings and put ourselves in a position in which we are able to concentrate on our problem.
Acceptance of what has happened is the first step in overcoming the consequences of any misfortune."
Psychologically, it means a new release of energy! When we have accepted the worst, we have nothing more to lose. And that automatically means-we have everything to gain!
'Face the worst'; improve on the worst.
Rule 2 is: If you have a worry problem, apply the magic formula of Willis H. Carrier by doing these three things-
1. Ask yourself,' 'What is the worst that can possibly happen?"
2. Prepare to accept it if you have to.
3. Then calmly proceed to improve on the worst.
Thursday, April 25, 2013
How To Stop Worrying And Start Living : Live in "Day-tight Compartments"
"How To Stop Worrying And Start Living" is a book authored by Dale Carnegie. This blog provides the book summary and encourage to read it.
"Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand."
"The best possible way to prepare for tomorrow is to concentrate with all your intelligence, all your enthusiasm, on doing today's work superbly today."
Begin the day with Christ's prayer: "Give us this day our daily bread."
Whether in war or peace, the chief difference between good thinking and bad thinking is this: good
thinking deals with causes and effects and leads to logical, constructive planning; bad thinking
frequently leads to tension and nervous breakdowns.
When we start in the morning, there are hundreds of tasks which we feel that we must
accomplish that day, but if we do not take them one at a time and let them pass through the day slowly and evenly, then we are bound to break our own physical or mental structure.'
... One task at a time.
Let's be content to live the only time we can possibly live: from now until bedtime.
"Anyone can do his work, however hard, for one day. Anyone can live sweetly, patiently, lovingly, purely, till the sun goes down. And this is all that life really means."
'Every day is a new life to a wise man.'
I found it wasn't so hard to live only one day at a time. I learned to forget the yesterdays and to not-think of the tomorrows. Each morning I said to myself: 'Today is a new life.'
"The child says: 'When I am a big boy.' But what is that? The big boy says: 'When I grow up.' And then, grown up, he says: 'When I get married.' But to be married, what is that after all? The thought changes to 'When I'm able to retire." And then, when retirement comes, he looks back over the landscape traversed; a cold wind seems to sweep over it; somehow he has missed it all, and it is gone. Life, we learn too late, is in the living, in the tissue of every day and hour."
"Enjoy the day." Or, "Seize the day." and make the most of it.
Chapter 1 - Live in "Day-tight Compartments" - Highlights
"The best possible way to prepare for tomorrow is to concentrate with all your intelligence, all your enthusiasm, on doing today's work superbly today."
Begin the day with Christ's prayer: "Give us this day our daily bread."
Whether in war or peace, the chief difference between good thinking and bad thinking is this: good
thinking deals with causes and effects and leads to logical, constructive planning; bad thinking
frequently leads to tension and nervous breakdowns.
When we start in the morning, there are hundreds of tasks which we feel that we must
accomplish that day, but if we do not take them one at a time and let them pass through the day slowly and evenly, then we are bound to break our own physical or mental structure.'
... One task at a time.
Let's be content to live the only time we can possibly live: from now until bedtime.
"Anyone can do his work, however hard, for one day. Anyone can live sweetly, patiently, lovingly, purely, till the sun goes down. And this is all that life really means."
'Every day is a new life to a wise man.'
I found it wasn't so hard to live only one day at a time. I learned to forget the yesterdays and to not-think of the tomorrows. Each morning I said to myself: 'Today is a new life.'
"The child says: 'When I am a big boy.' But what is that? The big boy says: 'When I grow up.' And then, grown up, he says: 'When I get married.' But to be married, what is that after all? The thought changes to 'When I'm able to retire." And then, when retirement comes, he looks back over the landscape traversed; a cold wind seems to sweep over it; somehow he has missed it all, and it is gone. Life, we learn too late, is in the living, in the tissue of every day and hour."
"Enjoy the day." Or, "Seize the day." and make the most of it.
Tuesday, April 16, 2013
Selective Quotes of Albert Einstein
If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough.
It's not that I'm so smart, it's just that I stay with problems longer.
Any man who reads too much and uses his own brain too little falls into lazy habits of thinking.
A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.
The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge but imagination.
Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.
Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
The world is a dangerous place to live; not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don't do anything about it.
Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning.
Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves.
We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.
Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.
Education is what remains after one has forgotten what one has learned in school.
Finding Pincodes (India)
You can find/check your place pin-code using the below link from Indiapost website
http://www.indiapost.gov.in/pin/
http://www.indiapost.gov.in/pin/
Karnataka/Bangalore property guideline values
You can find the Karnataka State Government Guideline value for properties across all the places of Karnataka with the below link.
Guideline values are the minimum registration price the Govt has fixed. We need to register our property for value greater than this price.
http://www.karunadu.gov.in/karigr/aspx/marketvalue/default.aspx
Guideline values are the minimum registration price the Govt has fixed. We need to register our property for value greater than this price.
http://www.karunadu.gov.in/karigr/aspx/marketvalue/default.aspx
Wednesday, March 27, 2013
Selective quotes of Benjamin Franklin
By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.
Tell me and I forget. Teach me and I remember. Involve me and I learn.
Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain - and most fools do.
Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.
Life's Tragedy is that we get old too soon and wise too late.
An investment in knowledge pays the best interest.
Be at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let every new year find you a better man.
Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing.
Money has never made man happy, nor will it, there is nothing in its nature to produce happiness. The more of it one has the more one wants.
Honesty is the best policy.
Who is wise? He that learns from everyone. Who is powerful? He that governs his passions. Who is rich? He that is content. Who is that? Nobody.
Do not fear mistakes. You will know failure. Continue to reach out.
Guests, like fish, begin to smell after three days.
He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.
He that would live in peace and at ease must not speak all he knows or all he sees.
Well done is better than well said.
Wednesday, March 20, 2013
Selected quotes of Winston Churchill
Continuous effort - not strength or intelligence - is the key to unlocking our potential.
Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.
You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life.
The empires of the future are the empires of the mind.
A lie gets halfway around the world before the truth has a chance to get its pants on.
Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.
If you're going through hell, keep going.
Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.
A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.
Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.
Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfills the same function as pain in the human body. It calls attention to an unhealthy state of things.
A man does what he must - in spite of personal consequences, in spite of obstacles and dangers and pressures - and that is the basis of all human morality.
You can always count on Americans to do the right thing - after they've tried everything else.
We shall defend our island, whatever the cost may be, we shall fight on the beaches, we shall fight on the landing grounds, we shall fight in the fields and in the streets, we shall fight in the hills; we shall never surrender.
If you have an important point to make, don't try to be subtle or clever. Use a pile driver. Hit the point once. Then come back and hit it again. Then hit it a third time - a tremendous whack.
To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.
We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.
Victory at all costs, victory in spite of all terror, victory however long and hard the road may be; for without victory, there is no survival.
However beautiful the strategy, you should occasionally look at the results.
The price of greatness is responsibility.
When you are winning a war almost everything that happens can be claimed to be right and wise.
Kites rise highest against the wind - not with it.
We shall draw from the heart of suffering itself the means of inspiration and survival.
We are masters of the unsaid words, but slaves of those we let slip out.
Play the game for more than you can afford to lose... only then will you learn the game.
Study history, study history. In history lies all the secrets of statecraft.
It is a fine thing to be honest, but it is also very important to be right.
I never worry about action, but only inaction.
Do not let spacious plans for a new world divert your energies from saving what is left of the old.
In the course of my life, I have often had to eat my words, and I must confess that I have always found it a wholesome diet.
These are not dark days: these are great days - the greatest days our country has ever lived.
I have nothing to offer but blood, toil, tears and sweat.
The first quality that is needed is audacity.
In war as in life, it is often necessary when some cherished scheme has failed, to take up the best alternative open, and if so, it is folly not to work for it with all your might.
Friday, February 8, 2013
Selective quotes of Henry Ford
If money is your hope for independence you will never have it. The only real security that a man will have in this world is a reserve of knowledge, experience, and ability.
Henry Ford
When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it.
Henry Ford
If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person's point of view and see things from that person's angle as well as from your own.
Henry Ford
Before everything else, getting ready is the secret of success.
Henry Ford
Most people spend more time and energy going around problems than in trying to solve them.
Henry Ford
One of the greatest discoveries a man makes, one of his great surprises, is to find he can do what he was afraid he couldn't do.
Henry Ford
There is joy in work. There is no happiness except in the realization that we have accomplished something.
Henry Ford
You can't learn in school what the world is going to do next year.
Henry Ford
The man who will use his skill and constructive imagination to see how much he can give for a dollar, instead of how little he can give for a dollar, is bound to succeed.
Henry Ford
Quality means doing it right when no one is looking.
Henry Ford
Nothing is particularly hard if you divide it into small jobs.
Henry Ford
Wealth, like happiness, is never attained when sought after directly. It comes as a by-product of providing a useful service.
Henry Ford
It has been my observation that most people get ahead during the time that others waste.
Henry Ford
Even a mistake may turn out to be the one thing necessary to a worthwhile achievement.
Henry Ford
Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.
Henry Ford
Don't find fault, find a remedy.
Henry Ford
Thursday, February 7, 2013
Selective Quotes of Thomas Edison
Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.
Thomas A. Edison
Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
Thomas A. Edison
There's a way to do it better - find it.
Thomas A. Edison
Nearly every man who develops an idea works it up to the point where it looks impossible, and then he gets discouraged. That's not the place to become discouraged.
Thomas A. Edison
I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.
The reason a lot of people do not recognize opportunity is because it usually goes around wearing overalls looking like hard work.
Thomas A. Edison
Being busy does not always mean real work. The object of all work is production or accomplishment and to either of these ends there must be forethought, system, planning, intelligence, and honest purpose, as well as perspiration. Seeming to do is not doing.
Thomas A. Edison
Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration.
Thomas A. Edison
I never did a day's work in my life. It was all fun.
Thomas A. Edison
To invent, you need a good imagination and a pile of junk.
Thomas A. Edison
Just because something doesn't do what you planned it to do doesn't mean it's useless.
Thomas A. Edison
Be courageous. I have seen many depressions in business. Always America has emerged from these stronger and more prosperous. Be brave as your fathers before you. Have faith! Go forward!
Thomas A. Edison
I never did anything by accident, nor did any of my inventions come by accident; they came by work.
Thomas A. Edison
Anything that won't sell, I don't want to invent. Its sale is proof of utility, and utility is success.
Thomas A. Edison
The three great essentials to achieve anything worth while are: Hard work, Stick-to-itiveness, and Common sense.
Thomas A. Edison
Restlessness is discontent and discontent is the first necessity of progress. Show me a thoroughly satisfied man and I will show you a failure.
Thomas A. Edison
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